The Travelling Sex Locum

It’s time for some old dating stories! That was initially the point of this blog, I have enough funny/brutal/heartbreaking stories to fill a trilogy, but thought a blog was a better place to start. Then life kind of happened, men happened, feelings took over and I ended up writing about them instead. With the current situation making any new developments less than exciting (for those asking, poor communication guy has really stepped it up and we are going strong, will definitely see him on the other side. The ‘mate’ turns out isn’t such a good friend after all!), it’s time … Continue reading The Travelling Sex Locum

Right Man, Wrong Time

Ah, the old adage. If I had a pound for every time I’d been told it’s just not the right time I’d be spending this lockdown in the Maldives instead of my two bed semi. But sometimes it really is true, and sometimes it’s me that forces that decision, not them. Some of it’s a barrier that’s built up over years, some a fear of the future, some just plain old stubbornness. But fuck me has 2020 been a bitch of a year so far. Last time I wrote a piece, I was waxing lyrical about kindness and understanding others. … Continue reading Right Man, Wrong Time

Kindness

The timing of this blog is no mistake, with the terrible news this week along with some personal recent dating experiences, it got me to thinking about the effects of dating, both online and otherwise, on mental health. Even before the news broke on Saturday about Caroline Flack, I had been experiencing the very real effects of the pressure of dating on both mine and others wellbeing. I won’t go into too much detail, they aren’t my stories to tell or my feelings to express. But I do want to talk about kindness, and the importance of always thinking about … Continue reading Kindness

The benefit of doubt

Followers of my twitter will know that yesterday was the rescheduled date of last weekend. The one where he didn’t show. We have met since that non date because despite my usual block and delete, one chance mentality, I went against it and we had an evening together on Monday. Everything was great, he’s great. There’s no games, there’s no bullshit. I know where I stand and I think if he lost interest he would just tell me. It’s refreshing, but fuck me it’s dangerous. It means the guards get lowered, it means the potential feelings start, and with feelings, … Continue reading The benefit of doubt

Old school dating

I should have had a date today. A second date. Since matching on tinder 12 days ago we have messaged everyday on WhatsApp and spoken every day on the phone. On Thursday we went for a ‘quick drink’ after work and spent the evening chatting and laughing and getting to know each other face to face. It was amazing, and made me really look forward to our planned date today. We should have been meeting early afternoon, strolling into town, day drinking and then watching the man united game. Possibility of back to mine, few more drinks and an adult … Continue reading Old school dating

The unsolicited dick pic, a call to arms.

The Unsolicited Dick Pic.  It’s the stuff of nightmares for all those treading through the murky waters of online dating.  I’ve often joked that I would publish a book one day of all of the photos I’ve received over the years (must start saving and stop deleting), and then I realised that it had been at least 6 months since I had received a dick pic, unsolicited or otherwise, and it got me to thinking why. Am I going for a different kind of man based on their profile?  Am I giving off a different vibe when I’m talking to … Continue reading The unsolicited dick pic, a call to arms.

A lie for no reason

Thought I should do a little intro before I spam endless unread blog posts into the stratosphere. Although the point of this blog is anonymous dating advice, stories and general ramblings, the basics are needed for you to understand why I’m in a position to write about dating. I’ve been ‘single’ practically forever, I’m a dating app aficionado having used everything from match.com to Hinge to some more ‘off beat’ and specialist apps. I’ve done it all and I’ve a hundred stories to tell anyone willing to listen. I thought a blog would be therapeutic, plus the one thing I … Continue reading A lie for no reason